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It is one of my sources of happiness never to desire knowledge of other people’s business.

Dolley Madison

Gossiping and complaining, . . . . junk food for the soul?

A few years ago I came across an article about Liz Murray, the young woman who went from being homeless, to Harvard. Something in particular she said appealed to me. It was that she started on her journey by seeing how much she could achieve in a month, and then it flowed from there.

I decided to emulate what she had done, with my skills and talents. And I was amazed at how much I achieved in the first month. I did, not just talked! Stories flowed. Then I wrote poems and lyrics. I achieved so much. And I found the more I did, the more I could do. Ideas came and doors opened and it was easy to continue.

And then I started to noticed other things, too. Like people around me complaining. And these were slim people gorging themselves with complaints and gossip, yet looking down on those who were overweight.

I realized they could not see how their complaints were making them overweight in the mental/emotional/spiritual sphere.They were bogged down and were too heavy to move and realize their potential.

Now I’m sure people who are overweight know they need to cut down on junk food, to lose weight and be healthy. But do complainers and whingers know they need to stop complaining and gossiping so much? That it’s junk food for the soul!

What could I do to help? I thought. I could write and tell my stories. I recognized how fortunate I was to focus on something I can change and not go round and round in circles with empty words of complaint and gossip. I could use my talent to help others to see that they, too, had something to offer, if they wanted. And this is one of the many reasons that CATALYSTS AND CONVERSATION was born. It’s my book baby!

And this reminds me of another catalyst!

( and you will need to read the book for that!)

Until next time,

Stay real!

A bad beginning makes a bad ending.

Euripides, Aegeus (484 BC ‐ 406 BC).

If only I had known way back then that this saying is absolutely true. People tell us/show us within a short time what they are really like and, strangely, lots of us don’t listen!

Why, I remember clearly what was said to me at my first meeting with the men in my life, those who turned out to be less than what I wanted them to be. And that is the key. They were less than I wanted them to be! Now the fellows in the relationships thought they were perfectly alright. And so did I, until I realized I was deeply involved in a relationship that was not how I imagined it should be.

Another clue here. Imagined. Any of my relationships that didn’t work were not as I imagined they should be. Yet each relationship gave me clues in a straightforward manner.

One man told me that he was a bastard and that I was too good for him. I said,
‘Ohh you are not . . . . you are wonderful!’

It took me 30 years . . but in the end I concurred and said,’ You are right. You are a bastard!‘

And another man put me down- made disparaging remarks- as soon as we met. I excused him because he was drunk at the time. And he did speak more politely to me when he was sober. Silly me!

It took me many years to escape from this relationship, where he was drunk and abusive most of the time. Yet the signs were there for me to see, right from the start.

I am a really good ‘life’ driver now. I watch what the signs say and turn around quick if I’m going the wrong way!

What about you?

Are you like me and had enough of those bumpy roads, and don’t settle for anything other than a nice smooth ride?

Remember- no matter what, you can always change directions. It’s never too late!

Until next time,

Stay real!

I love life! Do you?

What I love most is that when you learn something new, you can go on to create new chapters to your life story. Like your own fairy tale. Do you know what I mean?

This is how I see it.

When I look back on my own life, to way before I came to where I am now, I see a shy, insecure little girl.

This little girl-me- went on meet many dragons I had to slay – I found learning equals dragon slayer!- for me to move through and past them for the path to become less rocky, then onto downright smooth!

Yay to learning- also known as ‘dragon slayer’- I say!

If you don’t learn, you don’t grow. And as Tony Robbins says, if you’re not growing, you’re dying.

Maybe slayed by one of the dragons or trolls along the way???

No way was I going to let any troll get me!

I am so pleased that I started to learn. Now I can write about what happened along my way and hope it triggers something positive for you in your life, as my many teachers- the learning- did for me!

And whatever you do, have fun!

Until next time,

Stay real!

I discovered the power of catalysts in my life-and love to have a chat, and to share-so what better name for my soon-to-be-published book than CATALYSTS and CONVERSATION!

Here is an excerpt from CATALYSTS and CONVERSATION:

‘A little learning is a dangerous thing;
drink deep, or taste not the Pierian spring:
there shallow draughts intoxicate the brain,
and drinking largely sobers us again.’
Alexander Pope

I Am Not Fickle, Just Because I’m A Gemini!
An important catalyst was generated indirectly because of my two daughters. They are both Cancerians and I am a Gemini. Some very vocal people told me that my daughters would be good home makers because they were Cancerians. And they said that I was just talkative and flighty because I’m a Gemini.

Well, this was my catalyst to start delving into astrology for I felt I was quite a nurturing type.This astrology thing must be wrong! Why, I had the patience to sit and talk to anyone about their problems, or to encourage them, yet my daughters were both too fidgety to sit and listen for very long. They loved to be on the move. And this was fine. It was just so darn annoying to me that some people thought I was not the nurturing type, just because I was a Gemini. I knew differently!

I was determined to find out more about this astrology thing. And it was later, through this very medium that I found that it is only by having challenges- or catalysts- in our lives that we build the momentum to help us move forward. Challenges have within them the opportunity to move us forward.

Have you ever had something annoy you so much that you just had to do something to change the situation? Well, that’s what started my interest in astrology.

It was good that I knew my exact time of birth, so I had a well-known astrologer do up a personal chart for me. And there it was in black and white!

I AM a nurturing type because I have two planets in the nurturing sign of Cancer. I don’t walk like an Egyptian, but I do love like a Cancerian! I have the love planet Venus in Cancer, so I give love in a nurturing way. And I do communicate in a nurturing way- that’s why I love writing this book to share my stories with you- because I have Mercury, the communication planet, in the nurturing sign of Cancer, at my time of birth.

I discovered that both my Cancerian daughters have Venus- how they give love- in Gemini- and that’s why they love to flit around! This placement of Venus in their charts makes it hard for them to sit still, just like a Gemini. They are likely to show their love by taking their family to visit places. And neither is right nor wrong, it’s just how it is. We are all so very multi-faceted.

Now when someone says, ‘Ohh, you’re a Gemini,’ I can say, ‘Yes I am, and I’m so much more- and you, too, are so much more than your sun sign!’ It was many more years before I discovered that everything has two sides.

I might have been like a nurturing Cancerian, but I also had the other side of the coin- the negative- and would hide like a little crab – the symbol of Cancer- whenever I was overwhelmed by something. Everything is revealed to us when we are ready to receive the information, though. It is always there for us to find, when we are ready.

And delving into astrology made me understand how important it is for our emotional well being, not to neglect the different aspects of our personalities. Just like it’s important for our physical health to exercise each part of our bodies.

Why, I’m sure you would think it strange if I said you are just your face, or hands or feet. Yet this is what happens if we think we are just a Gemini, or just a Cancerian or just an Aquarian and so on. We are all so much more. And I discovered that we need to exercise–to use- each part of our natures-our personalities and talents- to be truly happy and content.

It had been so very obvious to me, as a mother, that both my daughters liked to flitter while I was happy to sit and talk and nurture. Gemini is my sun sign, though, and that part of my nature comes out in my love of expression.

And I noticed that every poem, story or lyric I wrote was done in such a way that someone, somewhere, could get something out of it. I realised I wrote in a sort of universal style. It dawned on me that this came from another part of my horoscope.

I have the moon in Aquarius and therefore my emotions are felt in a universal way- I like justice for the whole, and not just the individual. Astrology was to play a more important role in my life, as time went on. But I will tell you about those catalysts later.

The part of my nature that is Gemini likes to have fun while we learn, so I want to make your experience of this book as entertaining as possible. For now, I will leave you with the thought that my discovery of many parts of astrology showed me that the different parts of our natures need to be exercised, like the different parts of our bodies. And I found when we do this, when we give expression to our whole nature, contentment follows.

It is because of my Aquarian moon that I have written short profiles for each of the 366 birthdates, at the end of this book. That combined with my Gemini love of expression, and my Cancerian love of nurturing, too, of course! I love to give something personal to everyone, and was pleased to be able to do this.

From my study of numerology, I discovered my birth numbers do indeed correspond with my personality in astrology, and is a quicker way to have an overview of a person’s potentials.

I know that I am happy when I express myself in an uplifting way. And I love to influence others by encouraging them to follow their passions. And the variety I need comes in the form of the different ways I love to express myself. Writing lyrics, books, poems and movie scripts, are just some ways I help satisfy this part of my nature.

On the next page are a few of my potentials from my date and month of birth. Anyone born on the same day and month, of any year, has the same potential. But only they will know what their passions and interests are, though. It could be with photography, fashion, family, design, social work or gardening to name a few possibilities. It is up to us to know our passions.

Why not check your day and month at the end of the book, to see if you are ‘exercising’ the positive of just some of your potentials! Are you being constructive with your gifts? If not, you can change this at any time. It’s all up to you.

My birthday, and some of my gifts!

30th May
People born on this date, and working to their potential, are really expressive and uplifting and influence in a ‘versatile’ kind of way!

In the negative-not working to potential-the following happens:

‘expressive and uplifting’ become ‘critical and complaining.’
‘influence’ becomes ‘abuse power’.
‘versatile‘ becomes ‘scattered and bluffing.’

Some famous people born on this date are:

Wynonna Judd, country singer.
Benny Goodman, bandleader.
Mel Blanc, voice of cartoon characters like Bugs Bunny.

Some catalysts are bigger than others as they have greater effects on our lives. And the results we get from any catalyst depend on what we do. If we do nothing, we get nothing different. If we do something constructive, to fix the situation, then we can get positive change. If we react and do something destructive to try to counteract the same kind of force coming at us, well, we’re likely to get something else destructive.

Yet, that which doesn’t kill us really can make us stronger. I think someone who didn’t use one of their large catalysts constructively must have written this! And it is true. If we do survive, then we can learn and move on to something better.

And many of us go on to help others, because we want them to do it quicker than we did. Sometimes we can help, just by letting others know that it is never too late to do something different!

We are all catalysts, sometimes without even knowing and sometimes it is obvious, for we are told we are. An example is in my next little story.
( and for that one you will need to read the book! )

Until next time,

Stay real!

LAURI’S BLOG:

I love numbers.

Take maths for example . . if you add 2 plus 9 plus 1 plus 1 plus 9 plus 5 plus 4 . . .we get the number 31 and it always remains that way. Numbers here are objective . . . there is nothing subjective about numbers . . . . or is there?

If you take those same numbers in numerology . . . a person born on the 29th January 1954, we get to 31, also . . . when we add these same numbers across . . . but here is where the subjectivity comes in.

Is the person living in the positive or negative meaning of all of these numbers going across . . . . and also the total 31/4 destiny number?

As an example, take the number 29 of the day number above. If a person is living in the positive energy of this master number then they will be highly idealistic and inspirational. If a person is in the negative energy of this number they may be too sensitive and emotional.

Our numbers show us what choices we have . . . when we are living in the positive/ constructive or negative/destructive.

What numbers cannot tell us is what interests the person will have. Will it be in working with children, photography, health, finance, building, sailing, gardening, writing etc. etc. etc. . .. or maybe a combination of a lot of areas.

This is just a little of why I love numbers . . . and one of my dreams is that kids . . . and anyone who ever was a kid:) . . . will see how much fun numbers can be . . as well as a very practical way for us to get to know ourselves . … and others!

Until next time,

Stay real!

LAURI’S BLOG:

Have you ever thought how wonderful it is to have choices?

I have.

Just the other day after I had finished my daily early morning ritual of saying a great big ‘ thank you’ for all the wonderful things in my life.

Things like my family, friends, warm bed, hot and cold running water, washing machine, clothes dryer, food, good health, transport to get me to work, the job I have that pays the bills, while I am working towards getting one in my passion. Ohhh and the flushing toilet . … and and and!!!

It was after I had done this regular exercise, to remind me all that I have to be grateful for and sets me up for a whinge free day . . that I thought how marvellous it is that we have so many choices.

Choices like we can pay thousands of dollars to learn how to meditate, or we can just sit or lie down and close our eyes, listen to our breathing and relax, for no monetary outlay at all!!

Or we can go to the gym and pay to use the exercise equipment and be with others, or we can just go for a walk by ourselves out in nature, or exercise in front of the TV or DVD at home. Choices!

How great they are! And how lucky we are to live in a country where we have these choices. Another ‘thing’ I can include on my daily gratitude list!

Until next time,

Stay real!

Lauri’s Blog:

Do we ever know how others in our lives want to be shown love?

I decided it was time my adult kids knew how I like to be loved.

This is what I wrote to the four of them:

This is an overview of how I feel and how I want to be shown love by you, my kids:

Please get to know me for who I am, not as you want me to be, or think I should be.

I love my family first and foremost, and want the best for you all. I actually want the best for everyone and anyone. But as I know all of you, wanting the best for you all is a very personal thing for me!

I enjoy hearing from each of you, at any time. To me communication is the only way we get to know each other and have an emotional connection.

Please understand that I do not know what it feels like to be jealous, so you-or anyone-can share any good news with me and know that I will always be delighted for you.

I love life, and I love to laugh and be happy. And it doesn’t take much to make me feel this way. Every day I feel good and when I run into it, it’s the kindness, lightheartedness and generosity of spirit in others that make me feel even extra good.

I appreciate having a nice place to live and, while I do NOT love housework, I know that a certain amount of it needs to be done to keep the plague away!

I do not take myself too seriously, but I DO take life seriously. It is the only one we will know, or remember, so I want to become the best me that I can while I am here. I will work to achieve this all of my life.

Learning, to me, is a passion and I think anything we learn can be done with a sense of fun.

I will find out if you lie to me about anything that concerns me, so please always tell me the truth for how can I trust anyone who lies to me?! Anything that does not concern me, of course, you can take to your grave, for . . it is not my concern!

Please talk to me with the same politeness and courtesy you give to strangers and we will get on fine.

As long as I am not infringing on your territory, please let me be me. If I AM infringing on your territory, please let me know politely, as you would a stranger.

What I love more than anything when I am with someone I love is to have a coffee- or juice, or whatever- and share an exchange of meaningful conversation.

And if you ever want to show me love in a physical way, then a hug and a kiss and/or money, good chocolates, lottery tickets/ scratchits and Chanel No 5 perfume will work for me!

Now you know me a little more, so why not let me know how you want me to show YOU love?

Please remember I will abide by your wishes, as this is your life, and will take any requests to get out of your lives quite seriously!

Your loving mum xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo

Until next time,

Stay real!

My Lyrics

Sometimes ordinary words are not enough, so we write poems and lyrics

Hope you enjoy mine!

THAT SPACE,

THAT PLACE

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